
Dear Fred,
Thanks for your email.
Like most American "conservatives," "Thinking Housewife" Laura Wood has little interest in discussing the muck of political practicality - much less compromising about it. ("The Thinking Housewife" - http://www. thinkinghousewife.com)
Instead, Laura adheres to "Pure Principles" which Christian conservatives consider not only salvific in themselves but deem The Only path to salvation.
Never mind Merton... http://paxonbothhouses. blogspot.com/2012/04/merton- best-imposed-as-norm-becomes. html
Conservatives look straight at the sun, and are blinded by the light. They are seduced by beliefs that are too true to be good.
In the late '60s when we were studying at Toronto, I read a zoological study done in a Michigan wilderness area. The research concerned wolves and their sudden disappearance from an island ecosystem. As soon as the wolves were gone, the deer population soared. Within three generations, their surging numbers surpassed the land's "carrying capacity." Then, unexpectedly, the population not only fell but plummeted by two thirds.
Since contemporary "conservatives" have difficulty conceiving human beings as co-creators of The Incarnation, Laura avoids discussion of biological necessity and the relationship between necessity and human stewardship. (A parenthetical prediction: Pope Francis will address environmental degradation and its anthropogenic causes. Consistent with his namesake, Francis will remind humankind of its indispensable responsibilities to Earth, both personal and political. While mentioning Pope Francis, I will also point out that Pope Benedict has used the phrase "co-creator" approvingly.)
Were he alive today, Gilbert Keith Chesterton would categorize conservatives' aggressive ignorance of collective, political responsibility as being "plain as potatoes." GKC's intellectual rigor would also persuade him that humankind is either at, or near, Earth's carrying capacity.
Notably (yet rarely noted) is this curious circumstance: We humans have actually fulfilled a biblical command and are now in full compliance with Yahweh's enjoinder to "multiply and fill the earth."
It seems Laura would rather "let God do the dirty work" by making no attempt to prevent humankind from outstripping earth's carrying capacity, thus insuring a devastating calamity that makes God alone responsible for the sudden death of billions.
Two weeks ago at Chautauqua Institution, the Director of Religion, Rev. Joan Brown Campbell, made this invocation: "Dear God, we pray for peace as if is your responsibility and not our obligation."
I agree with Laura that contraception -- to the exclusion of child bearing -- can be a bad thing, although, notably, the Church does not prohibit marriage between sterile individuals. In the absence of their procreativity, why does the isolated "unitive" function of sterile people not corrupt their relationship if, as the church currently teaches, unitive and procreative functions must be joined?
The Church's insistence on celibate priests and nuns also demonstrates that not everyone need reproduce. Indeed, the Church would welcome three times as many nuns and priests as it has.
Historical Note: "By the 4th century, marriages of nuns were condemned as "more sinful than adultery." The Church also discouraged the marriage of priests but this was not enforced until after the First General Council of the Lateran in 1123. On the other hand, by the 5th century the role of a nun was that of a religious woman who took a vow of chastity and whose duties might include serving in hospitals, giving to the poor, and praying for others..." "Religious Nuns In Medicval Europe" - http://www. clioproject.org/files/PDF/ Medieval_Nuns_Lesson.pdf (Polygamy persisted into the early Christian era and marriage was not made a sacrament until 1184 A.D. at the Council of Verona. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_(Catholic_Church))
It has even been argued - with some validity I think - that clerical celibacy has removed "Christian genes" from "the pool" and that Vatican insistence on celibacy has delayed The Coming Of The Kingdom.
Rome's fondness for celibacy dates back to the universal expectation among first century Christians that Christ would return "tomorrow, or next week" -- in any event, "really soon!" -- thus obviating need for the sullying sex act. See "Why Church Fathers Were So Negative About Sex" - http://paxonbothhouses. blogspot.com/2013/03/why- church-fathers-were-so- negative.html
With the passage of time, human sexuality re-asserted itself and soon Christian "commoners" abandoned belief in imminent parousia, developing a sensus fidelium eager for connubial bliss. (It is neither accidental nor coincidental that most Christian utterances of God's name take place during love-making.)
Often, conservative Christians disdain scientific findings such as homosexual practice throughout the animal kingdom. (I myself was once "humped" by a male Rottweiler, demonstrating - in unforgettable fashion - that homosexuality also plays out between species.) http://en.wikipedia.org/ wiki/List_of_animals_ displaying_homosexual_behavior
Conservative Christians also tend to disdain the findings of modern psychology. Admittedly, there is much nonsense in this "discipline," but certain phenomena -- "projection psychology" and "the psychological shadow" -- are not only well-demonstrated and readily observable but foundational.
Although most humans ignore "the shadow" and its "projection," interpersonal and political relationships are routinely ravaged by these interactive "reflexes."
Laura's disparagement of Lauren Sandler illustrates this "point." (Has Laura ever hosted a discussion of the contraceptive behaviors of her audience? Or would such openness run the risk of revealing discrepancy between "the ideal" and "the real?")
The glibbest way to justify self-righteousness is to spotlight other people's "shadows" and, in the process, avoid one's own.
Here's the nub...
Since "The Shadow" is always present, it can always be found.
Typically, relationships fall apart when self-righteous people focus exclusively on the shadow of others.
When spousal relationships fail, it is almost always due to the denial of one's personal shadow and disproportionate displacement of that shadow onto one's spouse. (This same mechanism operates in the psyches of Christian conservatives when they disparage Islam and Islamics even though offensive Muslims are largely indistinguishable from Inquisitorial Catholics just 500 years ago.)
The insidiousness projection of one's own "shadow" onto "evil others" arises from the intractable fact that The Shadow REALLY exists.
Since human nature is compounded of good and evil, anyone can identify the existence of actual, factual evil in anyone else... in any society... in any human institution.
When we focus exclusively on "the other's" shadow, not only can "the other" be "damned" but damnation can be demonstrated with real justification!
Yeshua's teaching focuses disproportionately on recognition and re-appropriation of one's personal shadow. The Nazarene is pellucidly clear that humankind's underlying spiritual disease is our ferocious determination to "see the speck in another's eye when there is an entire tree trunk in our own."
In this regard, Yeshua's "Woe Passages" may be the most memorable - but most infrequently sermonized - teaching in his entire ministry.
One can, of course, read any widely-distributed translation of Matthew's "Woe Passages." Here, for example, is how Jesus excoriates the Pharisees in the New International Version - http://www.biblegateway.com/ passage/?search=Matthew+23& version=NIV
Increasingly, however, I prefer "The Message," a translation whose wording, while substantively true to the original Greek texts, jolts me beyond "chestnut" complacency. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ The_Message_(Bible)
Matthew 23
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Frauds!
The smarmy logic of self-righteous Christians goes like this: "Pharisees were hypocritical Jews who lived in antiquity. We are good Christian people who live in the 21st century A.D."
Pax tecum
Alan
On Thu, Aug 29, 2013 at 3:38 PM, Fred Owens <froghospital911@gmail.com> wrote:
Notably (yet rarely noted) is this curious circumstance: We humans have actually fulfilled a biblical command and are now in full compliance with Yahweh's command to "multiply and fill the earth."
The only biblical command we have fulfilled --
There is limited value in purely theoretical discussions, as you point out, especially when it comes to children. Children are incredibly messy and they poop on theories and make scribbles out of your most careful plans
When it comes to having children, how many is always a wrong question. Have as many as you want.
Think of a party, a room full of people, everyone having a good time -- who would bother to count how many people are in the room? Introduce disharmony and the room is instantly over-crowded
The goal is harmony. To fear or even consider over-population or under-population is more than a waste of time, it is actually a harm. Such thinking about numbers impairs the judgment of young people who are about to become (or not become) parents.
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Thanks for your email.
I agree.
People should have as many children as they want -- within the context of continuing education so they can understand the social and economic implications of having children.
Here's the rub.
In the absence of contraception -- which I think "The Thinking Housewife" would ban if she could -- people almost never have the number of children they want but end up with the number that haphazardly come their way.
Assuming that people have ready access to contraception - and that ongoing education is a given - I do not fear global overpopulation.
In my lifetime, Mexican women have gone from an average of nearly 7 children to slightly over 2.
In Turkey, Prime Minister Erdogan is raising hackles by insisting that Turkish women demonstrate their patriotism by having 3 children rather than the current norm of "2."
In fact, while studying Turkey at Chautauqua Institution two weeks ago, I learned that Turkish workers are spontaneously returning from Germany and that the Turkish government is pondering incentives to bring even more home. Turkish industry is booming like very few places on earth with an annualized growth rate of nearly 7% since the early 2000s.)
I also agree about the importance of harmony: like you say, inducing fear over global over-population or under-population is not helpful.
Significantly, Mexican and Turkish women did not decide under master plan aegis to collapse the number of children they're having.
Rather, these women became aware - in the context of their lives - that contraception was a possibility and that fewer children enabled their families to enjoy more educational opportunity, better-and-more-abundant food, improved housing, more income and better healthcare.
Rather, these women became aware - in the context of their lives - that contraception was a possibility and that fewer children enabled their families to enjoy more educational opportunity, better-and-more-abundant food, improved housing, more income and better healthcare.
This knowledge, coupled with ready availability of contraception, has been enough to make national reproductive rates "steady-state sustainable" over the last 30-40 years.
Prohibition of contraception (including shame- and guilt-prohibited contraception) will swell populations in relatively uneducated nations until countries like Haiti exceed their territorial "carrying capacity" and "the whole shebang" goes bust.
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Please consider an attempt to persuade Laura to encourage her correspondents (and herself) to speak (albeit anonymously) about their own use (or non-use) of artificial contraceptives. I suspect her correspondents do not deviate much from the frequently cited statistic that more than 90% of Catholic women use artificial contraception at some time in their reproductive lives.
Ah! How easily we fault youthful passion (once it's behind us)! (Enter Augustine... who, brilliantly, went on to say, "Love and do what you will.")
If nothing else, it would be good if Laura prompted her correspondents to consciously confront their "contraceptive status" in a "social setting" -- rather than sweeping it under their "mental rugs." A tonic effect will obtain even if members of her "circle" decline to state their views.
Pax tecum
Alan
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FRED OWENS writes:Here is a look at the future for aging boomers. The cause of this problem is arguable, and possible solutions are worth discussing. But the numbers themselves are facts. We did not have enough children to give each one of us a nursemaid and blame who you will, the fact itself is rather stubborn.It might be worthwhile to urge younger people in their child-bearing years to take heed.But even so, we aging boomers will have to care for each other, one ancient cripple aiding another, and suffer through it.Laura writes:The cause is contraception and the widespread approval of it. America has danced the night away and the hangover has just begun.Here is an interesting figure from the LA Times:The ratio of potential caregivers to boomers needing care will sink from 7.2 to 1 in 2010 to 2.9 to 1 by 2050, according to the study.Hello, Lauren Sandler. Where are you? Oh, here she is, on her couch, representing the joys of sterility.The economy will also be stagnant in the years ahead because of the aging of the baby boomers, who will be consuming less. Economies rely on consumers. When there are fewer consumers, there are fewer robust businesses. That’s not to say that people should have children to serve as economic widgets, but simply that when people don’t have children, a culture necessarily declines and then dissolves, even though some, such as Ms. Sandler, are very, very happy.Laura,
I'm not going to worry about this too much. We're all in God's hands. There's people dying in Syria today and they have it much worse than we do.With aging baby boomers who had few or no children -- we can see this coming. There can be no pleasure in saying I told you so.Social security was instituted to fill in some gaps because family members do not always show up with a dutiful response. You might argue that this gov't program encourages irresponsibility, but still, under any regime, we will have people who fall through the gaps with no one to care for them.My grandparents and great-grandparents had large families. My two maternal aunts and my two maternal great-aunts never married. They stayed home and took care of their parents and lived as spinsters (which should be an honorable title).We will soon have a large cohort of aged baby boomers and a shortage of caregivers. Christian compassion compels us to do our best. I will soon be a member of this cohort, having been born in 1946. My intention is to care for others of my own age as much as I am able for as long as I am able. But there is no guarantee, not from gov't. and actually not from family either, that others will be able or willing to care for me when I need it.A consequence of widespread contraception is fewer children to eventually serve as caregivers for the aged. I agree this is true, but my question is "What do we do now?"Here's an analogy: when the waters are rising we can debate what caused the flood, but it would be more useful to start filling sandbags.
FredOn Mon, Aug 26, 2013 at 4:06 PM, Fred Owens <froghospital911@gmail.com> wrote: But even so, we aging boomers will have to care for each other, one ancient cripple aiding another, and suffer through it.Dear Laura,
Aging boomers -- The cause of this problem is arguable, and possible solutions are worth discussing. But the numbers themselves are facts. We did not have enough children to give each one of us a nursemaid and blame who you will, the fact itself is rather stubborn.
It might be worthwhile to urge younger people in their child-bearing years to take heed.--
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For conservative Christians, nearly perfect is not good enough. Only perfection will do.
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2012/04/merton- best-imposed-as-norm-becomes. html
"Perfection" - understood in the modern "mathematical-geometrical" way - is a curse.
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2012/09/paul- ryan-tells-truth.html Burdened by the perversions of "perfection" (whose biblical referent is better translated as "completeness") Christianity's "heavenly carrot" and "hellish stick" have come to recall The Logic of Terrorism.
In effect, Christianity's threat/reward system represents God as a terrorist who, at "The Last Judgment," will resort to the tactics of never-ending torture.
Even if it is true that we "condemn ourselves," would not a merciful God have created a Universe in which "moral failures" simply pass out of Existence? In Judaism -- and, lest we forget, Jesus was a practicing Jew -- the post-mortem punishments of Gehenna/Sheol never last more than a year. http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2013/08/in- jewish-thought-punishments-of- after.html To escape the terror -- to escape the terrible threat of eternal torture -- most Christians will do anything. http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/ 2013/04/americans-especially- catholics-approve.html Hence, Blaise Pascal's observation: "Men never do evil so completely and cheerfully as when they do it from a religious conviction."Addressing the Mountain Meadow Massacre, Mormon historian Sandra Tanner (?) observed: "When you are certain you’re doing the will of God, you will do anything."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jf4W3QeVN-s
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2012/10/ mormonism-is-not-christian- founding.html
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2012/01/mormons- pbs-frontline-documentary.html We have come to assume that Grand Inquisitor, Tomas de Torquemada must have been a bad man who knew he was doing bad things. In fact, Torquemada believed he was acting out of high virtue, nurturing the summum bonum, enacting The Will of God.See: "Americans, Especially Catholics, Approve Of torture," National Catholic Reporter
See: "Trial By Ordeal: A Thriving Practice Into The 17th Century"
http://paxonbothhouses.blogspot.com/2012/09/trial-by- ordeal-alive-and-well-in-17th. html In the presence of palpably good people, we never sense that they are fleeing the clutches of Satan or trying to avoid torment.
Rather, the lives of palpably good people bubble forth from divine embrace.Humans cannot contemplate an Eternal Lake of Fire without such intense self-absorption that we cringe in armored postures of self-defense.
It is impossible to dedicate oneself to others' agape wellbeing when crimped and stunted by fear.In John's First Epistle, we are told "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." (Where are biblical literalists when we need them?)
"If your heart is full of fear, you will not seek truth; you will seek security. But a heart is full of love has a limbering effect on the mind." Rev. William Sloane Coffin paraphraseSt. Augustine: "Love, and do what you will."Dorothy Day: "I really only love God as much as I love the person I love the least.”Tom Weston S.J.: “You can safely assume that you’ve created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do.”To make one's own agency co-terminous with God’s Will -- with no understanding of irony or paradox -- is not to do God's Will but to create a “cover” for working one's own will without shame, guilt or second-guessing.Ursula LeGuin observed that “There are no right answers to wrong questions.”And because there are no right answers to wrong questions, the wrong question "Will I be saved?" does not have a right answer.If you live right, if you love even your enemies, the question of "salvation" doesn't even come up because your present experience of salvation obviates any need for fear-driven questions.
Do not work on salvation - at least not directly.
Instead, work on the enactment of love.As soon as human beings saddle themselves with essentially terrorizing questions like "Will I be saved?" or "Will I burn for all time, and beyond time, in a lake of unquenchable fire?" we disable our capacity for disinterested love, love which gives itself for love's sake.
Lacking the straightforward engagement of loving others as our daily bread, "the left hand always knows what the right hand is doing" and we are grievously injured by the resulting calculations.
We become "calculating" people.
***"If You Impose Your Rules For Getting Into Heaven, Know That I Will Tell You To Go To Hell"
(The imposition of one's theological will and complacent self-satisfaction with preaching to the choir.)